Washington, D.C. — Donald Trump is “terrible for our sex lives” says a recent article at Salon, a progressive/liberal website that focuses on American politics and current affairs. Salon author Amanda Marcotte reports, “In conversations and online exchanges with Americans about how the election is affecting their sex lives, I found that many people are stressed out…and it’s affecting their sex lives”.
She adds, “Now, in the personage of Donald Trump, [politicians have] found a way to convince Americans to keep their pants on”. Los Angeles talk show host John Kobylt shares Marcotte’s opinion. He reports, “There seems to be a never-ending parade of stories from the East Coast, New York and Washington, [of] women, mostly in their twenties and thirties, for whom Trump’s victory has caused ‘body dysfunction”. So what, exactly, are the post-election effects on Americans’ libidos?
Here are the 5 Fast Facts of what you need to know:
1Some Women Say They Haven’t Had Sex in Weeks
In what the liberal American online news site Huffington Post calls “The Great Female Post-Election Libido Crash”, sexual drives among Hillary Clinton supporters have substantially decreased since Donald Trump’s victory in the U.S. presidential election, the Post claims. “The reports that are coming in from between the sheets are, well, not much”, according to Pamela Madsen, a sexuality and relationship coach for women.
She continues, “With over 400 reports of violence since the election, the nation’s unrest has become the reason for a lot of ‘Not tonight, Dear, I have a headache”. Numerous women, both married and single, are reporting a lack of sexual drive and sexual activity. One of these is newly engaged Anne, who admits, “I’ve basically found myself totally unable to get in the mood at all, which is becoming a little bit of a strain”. Anne elaborates, “My fiancé’s never been anything but respectful of a ‘no’ but the last thing I want to do is tell him why I haven’t been in the mood lately. I can’t think of anything more insulting than ‘Well, honey, frankly I’m thinking of Donald Trump right now”.
A married woman agrees: “Every time I try to get in the mood, I just picture Donald Trump’s face over my boyfriend’s and I want to Hulk smash”. Writer Laura Beck reports that a single friend of hers says that after the election she felt “her vagina glue itself closed, She hasn’t had the time or inclination to DIY it back open yet”. Another of Beck’s friends says, “When you’re watching Donald Trump…it doesn’t exactly put you in the mood”. And 28-year-old Allison from New York City confesses, “I have zero drive to have sex, or even go out and attempt to meet people — my disgust towards men has heightened tenfold.”
2Men, Too, Are Experiencing a Loss of Sex Drive
Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist with a master’s degree in psychology and a bachelor’s in human sexuality. She specializes in sex therapy. Marin was recently quoted in Cosmopolitan, a women’s magazine with a frequent emphasis on sexuality, as saying that the post-election sexual chill is not limited to women. It’s affecting men, as well.
As Marin puts it, “A lot of people might stereotypically believe that women are more ‘sensitive’ in general…but I haven’t found that to be the case with this particular election. Men’s libidos can be just as sensitive as women’s”. One married man interviewed for Cosmopolitan says he’s had to enforce a “no MSNBC after 9 p.m.” to save his sex drive.
And “the Donald” is even invading men’s dreams. One man recalls, “I had a sex dream and then it morphed into one in which Trump was screaming ‘for our country’ and beheading people”.
3The Problem Also Afflicts Gays
Gays, too, are not immune to the post-election libido crush. Priscilla Pine, writing in New York magazine, reports, “When I asked Jacques, 25 — a gay man and the only person I’ve ever met who seems to genuinely enjoy dating apps — I couldn’t even get the question out before he said, “I don’t want anyone to touch me right now”. Pine says the man went on to say, “I think it’s because I tend to be more submissive in bed, and I didn’t want to put myself in a position to be even more defeated, so to speak”.
4Masturbation Is Also Out of the Question
Priscilla Pine of New York magazine confesses that on the day after the election, as she sought to improve her depression without leaving home, “Masturbation occurred to me”. She elaborates, “It’s been my preferred source of quick-fix brain chemicals since the age of 12 because, at the very least, it forces you to think about something you enjoy for a solid five minutes — even if that thing is just, like, getting railed by Joe Manganiello inside your own mind”. However, she laments, as she “peered down at the $200 impulse-purchase vibrator in the top drawer of my bedside table, [she] felt nothing”.
5A Sex Therapist’s Advice
Sex therapist Vanessa Marin says these feelings of no sexual desire are not uncommon. She observes, “A lot of people are simply sick to their stomachs about the current political climate in the U.S.” She continues, “It’s hard to feel desire when you’re feeling disgusted, scared, nervous, frustrated, or angry”. So what can people do to revive or rev up their sex drive?
“Unfortunately, I think it’s going to be hard to completely ignore the political situation”, she says. However, she does suggest “disconnecting from laptops, turning off TVs, and unwinding with some candles and a hot bath”. And if that doesn’t work, sexuality and relationship coach Pamela Madsen suggests, “Plan sexy adventures. Take on a sex coach. Maybe this is your year to take yourself on some kind of a sexy adventure or finally deal with what has been holding you back”. Madsen concludes, “It’s time to get serious about our erotic energy and not allow our flame to get smaller”.